When a child believes he is bad, he behaves badlyaand parents react badly, which will only reinforce the childas belief that he is bad. But confident parents can break this cycle and improve their childas misbehavior, says child development specialist Bonnie Harris. Using Harrisas eight parenting principles designed to help children succeed, parents will learn the following truths: my child wants to be successful; behavior is the signal to my childas emotional state; inappropriate behavior means my child is having a problem, not being a problem; my needs are no more or no less important than my childas; I accept my child as a competent and unique individual; the behavior I focus on grows; I need to say what my child can hear; good discipline requires connection; and punishment breaks connection. Putting these principles to work allows parents to abandon the typical reward and punishment system of discipline (which alienates child and parent), and replace it with a more compassionate, successful approach that brings parent and child together. With Harrisas plan, parents will gain the confidence and skills to raise remarkable kids they will love to live withaand vice versa.