Release Date: 02 Feb 1998
Tracey Cox wrote Hot Sex: How to Do it in 1998, in response to hundreds of requests from magazine readers, asking for more of the practical, honest sex advice she already doled out via stories and advice columns. The following questions and answers were taken from a recent interview about the book.
What inspired you to write the book?
"There seemed to be a real need for some nitty-gritty, no-nonsense, step-by-step advice, so I took a long look at what other sex books were out there. A lot of the reputable sex books were too medical and dead boring - I felt like I was reading a high school biology textbook! But the alternatives were sleazy and tacky or horribly inaccurate. I wanted to create something that was informative but also fun to read: Hot Sex: How to Do It was the result.
How did you research Hot Sex?
No, it's not all personal and no, I haven't done everything in the book (and don't want to!) But I have got a psychology degree and have written and talked about sex and relationships for over a decade. I obviously used data from sex experts like Kinsey and Masters and Johnson, as well as advice from a team of sex therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, officials from Family Planning, sexual health clinics, rape crisis clinics and termination clinics. But one of the best sources was real people - Joe Public. I got at least two single people of each sex and two couples to read each and every chapter before the book was printed, to make sure the book was realistic and the solutions worked in reality, not just on paper. All the advice has been real-life tested!
Why aren't we 'better' at sex, given all the information that's already out there?
Info about sex might be everywhere but it's often misleading, too difficult to implement in real life or not specific enough. The newspapers might print a statistic on how most women orgasm through oral sex but they sure as hell don't tell you exactly how to do it to make it happen for her. Besides, a lot of the sex we're exposed to, isn't real sex. It gives us a false picture. Look at the sex on the soaps. Couples on telly have simultaneous orgasms more often than they do hot breakfasts - yet in real life, it's rare for both people to climax at the same time. So you go to bed thinking, "Ohmigod, there must be something wrong with me". But there isn't - you've just fallen for yet another sex myth.
Do we really need yet another sex manual - particularly one that tells us how to 'do it'?
Well.... yes! Because let's face it: although everyone does know how to do "it" in the sense of which bit fits where, not many people know how to do "it" well or how to keep sex great long-term. (If we did, there wouldn't be the massive divorce rate and affairs would be rare, rather than the norm.) Sex is a bit like typing. We can all sit down and bash something out using two fingers but you're never going to be as good as the person who uses 10 and took the touch-typing course. Hot Sex is the equivalent of the touch-typing course for sex. Because you might think you know how to do it and that you know it all but I guarantee you, there will be stuff you don't know in Hot Sex that can make your sex life better. It's practical, it's explicit, it answers all the questions the other sex books skirt around. And most importantly - it's fun. There's as much in there to laugh at as their is to learn. It's packaged in a reader-friendly format as well. You don't have to wade through huge slabs of text to get to the good bits. There are loads of tips and techniques and statistics to dazzle everyone at your next dinner party with. It's written in everyday language with a healthy dose of humour, there's candid advice on everything from G-spots and A-spots to a blow-by-blow, his'n'her guide to oral sex. It's aimed at anyone who wants to transform their sex life from so-so to sizzling overnight!
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